Things To Avoid To Improve Your Self-Growth

Things To Avoid To Improve Your Self-Growth

Every time the year ends most of us will be busy thinking of what to decide for our new year’s resolution. We try to choose things that we want to do for the coming year as a way to better ourselves. 

However, we often (if not never) forget to set things that we should not do as a part of our resolution. Because whether we realize and admit it, there are many things we should avoid and must-not-do in order to improve ourselves.

So, let’s try to list them down as a part of our new year’s resolution ideas.

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20 Things we must not do in 2020

1. Don’t underestimate yourself 

I’d like to put this as number one because when we set our resolution ideas of what we want to do, we’ll definitely need our self-confidence to be able to attain our goals.

Consequently, we must not underestimate ourselves. However, sometimes we doubt ourselves and don’t feel good enough to do things we want to do. Especially when they are new things, often we decide that we can’t do it even before we give it a try. 

So the first thing we must not do is underestimate ourselves. Don’t let self-doubt hinder our inner strength and energy to form into our best effort. 

2. Don’t be judgmental towards others and yourself

It’s okay to have opinions and such, but don’t jump into conclusion when things are not crystal clear and factual. And when it comes to people, it’s quite easy to become bias and prejudice. But, it’s important to be non-judgmental so that we can understand things and issues better which can lead to better relationships, peace of mind, and possibilities of new things.

It’s equally important to be non-judgmental towards ourselves too. Many of us may be guilty of being self-judgmental, particularly when we want to challenge ourselves to do something new. Instead of telling ourselves to try to be more resourceful and give our best shot, we feel discouraged and fear of failure that put limiting beliefs in our minds. 

Things to avoid to improve your Self-Growth

3. Don’t spend too much time on social media

You may or may not agree with this one. As much as I admit that there are benefits of social media i.e. connect with people, improve communication, make relationships with others, etc., there are, however, disadvantages of social media. Especially if we spend too much time on it, as it can distract us from doing important things, make us procrastinate, and waste time unnecessarily.

So, it’s only sensible if we choose to limit the time spent on social media as one of our new year’s resolutions.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others 

It is advisable to pick someone to look up to as your hero when you start something new. Someone who has already made his/her way to success in whatever you want to achieve. 

But, you must not compare yourself one to one. Yes, you can learn from their experience, but you can’t expect everything to happen to you exactly the same way it happened to them. Because you are you. 

What you’ve been through all your life may be similar to some people, but it won’t be the same. Also, your character and personality must be taken into account as well. So, you must stop comparing yourself to others if you want to let yourself grow and reach your true potential.

5. Don’t let others’ opinions affect you 

I personally agree that at some point other people’s opinions matter. However, we shouldn’t let those opinions affect us to the point we’re more worried about what people think than worrying about what we need to do. 

As long as you do things by the book – in a way that you don’t do any wrongdoings to others in order to attain your goal, you respect other people’s differences, and you don’t cross the norms and boundaries, you shouldn’t let others’ opinions get to you.

6. Stop Procrastination

Every one of us does procrastinate sometimes. From delaying to make a decision on something, putting off starting the exercise, avoiding the task due to fear of its difficulties, delaying to do our housework, etc.

But we know that time doesn’t come back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. So really, trying our best to stop procrastination should be in our new year’s resolution ideas.

Because procrastinating will only make us lazy and cause regrets at the end. 

7. Avoid Gossip

Nobody likes being talked behind their backs, right? So, if we don’t want others to gossip about us, then we should avoid gossip and those who talk about others. 

If I come across someone who talks about someone else, that’s just a clear sign for me to keep a distance. Common sense tells me that this person talks about others to me, chances are she would do the same about me to others. 

List of things to avoid to do for a better you in the new year

8. Don’t consume too much sugar

We all know that consuming too much sugar is not good for our health. Diabetes type 2, risk of heart disease, weight gain, and risk of cancer are only some of what too much sugar does do to your body.

There are also effects of sugar on the brain that we should know which is it reduces the production of memory factor that it can lead to dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. 

I think we all should try to not consume too much sugar and start a healthier diet for one of our new year’s resolutions. 

9. Don’t watch too much TV and be idle

It’s so easy to get carried away watching TV for hours and hours. Whatever your excuse is, spending too much time on TV is not really good. Because you’ll miss out doing other things and it will discourage you to be creative.

As time never comes back, we should be wise in how we spend our time. Entertain yourself with some interesting TV programs that you like, but don’t let yourself watching TV for long hours. 

10. Don’t be a perfectionist 

As much as you want things to be perfect, there is no perfection in this life. None. So, you must stop trying to be perfect. You should avoid being a perfectionist.

Because if you keep trying, you’ll end up being miserable and stop yourself from learning, growing, and progressing.

11. Don’t cause other people inconveniences

Sometimes it’s so easy to just do things the way we want to do without considering other people. But if that means we easily annoy and irritate people, then we should avoid doing it.   We should treat other people the way we ourselves want to be treated. 

I think we should aim to start taking responsibility for others and not cause other people inconvenience as our resolutions. 

12. Don’t talk harshly to people

It’s not nice listening to someone talk harshly to others, let alone being spoken to. So, in order to better ourselves, we should stop talking harshly to people.

Besides, it’s nice to be a kind person rather than a harsh one anyway.

So, let’s try to be a kind person in the coming year.

13. Don’t hold grudges

Let’s stop holding grudges against those who have wronged or hurt us. Because if we let the grudges inside us, they will only breed into hatred and consume our inner self to rot.

We’ll end up full of hate and anger that we’ll be a miserable person and find it difficult to move on. 

The best way to let go of our grudges is by forgiving those who caused our resentment, take the lessons from what happened, and move on. If you need a bit of time and space for this, then stay away from the person or situation that caused the problem until you have peace with it. 

14. Don’t be hard on yourself 

Every one of us wants to be able to attain our goals and succeed in achieving our resolutions. We’ll set the plan, and put our best efforts to get what we want. We’ll work hard towards the goals until we burnout. 

Don’t do this.

It’s okay to work hard and all, but you have to allow yourself to breathe as well. Don’t be hard on yourself that you get burnt out. Let yourself appreciate your wins, big and small, as well as take struggle, hardship, and maybe even failure. 

15. Don’t complain about things unnecessarily 

Instead of wasting your energy in complaining about many things unnecessarily, try to focus on every good thing that you get and have. Appreciate it. Be thankful for it.

So you can be more positive.

Because complaining can rewire your brain into the negativity that can cause brain damage and health issues, i.e. stroke, diabetes, high cholesterol, Alzheimer’s disease, etc.

Therefore, let’s put ‘don’t complain about things unnecessarily’ in our new year’s resolution list.

16. Don’t be lazy to exercise 

As the Latin saying goes ‘Mens Sana In Corpore Sano’, a sound mind in a healthy body. It’s only natural if being healthy becomes one of our new year’s resolutions. And one of the ways to stay healthy is by doing exercise.

So if you’ve been delaying to start doing exercise, and you can’t be bothered to exercise, then it’s time to change. Stop being lazy to exercise. Choose something as easy as walking exercise. Just keep moving and get sweating. 

17. Don’t overeat 

At times we may find it easy to end up overeating. Especially when we’re having good food and good company. But, we also know that overeating is not good for our health.

So for one of our next year’s resolutions, don’t overeat is quite a sensible idea.

18. Don’t dwell on the past

Whether you have a happy past or a sad past, just don’t dwell on the past. Whatever happened in the past let it stay in the past. You should only take lessons from it, but do move on to live your present.

Because if you dwell on the past, you’ll tend to compare your present with it. This can make things difficult for you to accept your present and to live your present mindfully. Just leave the past behind. Let’s move on to the new year.

19. Don’t let things cluttered in the house

A decluttered and tidy house always looks nice and feels good, don’t you think? Because everything will be at its place with enough amount of things.

However, some people find it hard to get rid of stuff though. Letting go of sentimental things is difficult for them. 

But, did you know that decluttering your house not only can make your house neat and tidy but also helps us sleep better, improve our productivity, reduce stress, etc?

Let’s not let things cluttered in the house.

20. Don’t be lazy to do things that matter

When it comes to something that matters, it’s not necessarily guaranteed that every one of us will jump into action. Often we’re just simply lazy to do it. 

For example, making healthy food, doing exercise, helping others, etc. So, for our new year’s resolution, we must stop being lazy to do things that matter. As the saying goes, “you’ll reap what you sow”. This new year we should try our best to only do good things so that we’ll get good rewards later on.

Final thoughts on things you should avoid to better yourself in the new year

Every year-end most of us will be busy thinking of what we want to do as our new year’s resolutions. But we forget to include things we should not do as a part of our resolutions.

The don’ts are equally important as the do’s.

It’s like decorating your house. How can you get your house nice and beautiful with all the new decoration items that you bought if you don’t clean your house from cluttering rubbish?

So, let’s try to put the list of don’t do things in our resolutions as well so that we can better ourselves in the new year.

Let me know in the comments if you have more ideas to put on the list. And feel free to share this with those who need it.

All the best.

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